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COMMON PARENTING MISTAKES

 

COMMON PARENTING MISTAKES

1.      Having unrealistic expectations and perfection from the child- this makes child feel frustrated and anxious. They start believing that whatever they do is not good enough. This develops low self esteem in them when they fail or do not match expectations of their parents.

2.      Being inconsistent with your child – someday you are very strict or sometimes you just giving in for their demands, sometimes by not being there at all. This inconsistent behavior of parents can confuse the child that how will their parents react to a certain situation.

3.      Not allowing kids to express their feelings- a child needs to express how they feel freely. Parents should allow them to express themselves whether they are happy, sad, fear or they want to cry. It is important for emotional well being and development of child.

4.      Saving them from failures and not allowing them to make mistakes- let your child learn to struggle. Even if he falls, let him stand on their own and allow them to start again. Children should understand that failure is part of life and its okay to fail but not give up and work even more harder and succeed. It builds a sense of confidence in them.

5.      Materialistic pampering- this means giving all type of gadgets, devices that your child wants. They demand for something like new phone or new laptop or any high branded electronic device and their parents give them without questioning them or setting any boundaries.

6.      Non-materialistic pampering- parents do not let their kids do things on their own. For example- setting school bag for them, not studying and watching TV specially during this COVID situation when everything is online. Not allowing them to learn table manners, doing their homework. This comes in between their developmental and growth process.

7.      Making sure their child is always comfortable- parents do not allow them to try new things. They should allow kids to explore themselves which will give them new insights and understand their strengths and weaknesses. This also improves their mental strength.

8.      Not spending quality time with kids- parents should make sure that they share a good amount of time with kids. They should ask about how there day went in school, share problems, play games, watch movies, share experiences. The bond between parent and child should be positive as it builds trust and confidence for the child.

9.      Forcing their goals on the child- sometimes what parents wanted to achieve and could not achieve, they force their goals on their children. Having a say in what their child should pursue is important but forcing them on the child is not good. Let the child pursue his own goals.

10.  Think before reacting- children learn from their parents how to react. Showing anger, frustration, insecurity in situations does not have good impression on the child. Parents should think before they react to any situation specially in front of their children learn from there behaviour and so parents have to be good role models for them.

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